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Մերձաւոր Արեւելքի Հայ աւետարանական եկեղեցիներու միութիւնը
Տէր եւ տիկին Զաւէն Մահշիկեան
Տիկին Աստղիկ Մահշիկեան
Տէր եւ տիկին Հենրի Մահշիկեան
Տէր եւ տիկին Սթիւ Մահշիկեան
Տէր եւ տիկին Ժիրայր Ճալոյեան
Տիկին Հերիքնազ Աղաբեկեան-Եուսեֆեան եւ զաւակունք
Մահշիկեան եւ Աղաբեկեան ընտանիքներ
Մակուրեան եւ Ապտիւլեան ընտանիքներ
եւ համայն ազգականներ կը գուժեն իրենց քրոջ, հօրաքրոջ եւ հարազատին՝

ԵՐԻՑՈՒՀԻ ԱՐՓԻՆԷ ՄԱՀՇԻԿԵԱՆ-ԱՂԱԲԵԿԵԱՆԻ

մահը, որ պատահեցաւ հինգշաբթի, 12 փետրուար 2009-ի առաւօտեան, ՔԱՀԼ-ի մէջ, յետ կարճատեւ հիւանդութեան:

Յուղարկաւորութեան պաշտամունքը պիտի կատարուի երեքշաբթի, 17 փետրուարին, կէսօրէ ետք ժամը 3:30-ին, Նոր Մարաշի Հայ աւետարանական եկեղեցւոյ մէջ, ուրկէ հանգուցեալին մարմինը պիտի փոխադրուի Պուրճ Համուտի Հայ աւետարանական գերեզմանատունը:

- Ներկայս ընդունիլ իբրեւ մահազդ:

- ՄԱՀԱԵ Միութիւնը եւ հանգուցեալին ընտանեկան պարագաները ցաւակցութիւններ պիտի ընդունին երեքշաբթի, 17 փետրուար 2009-ի յետմիջօրէին, մինչեւ երեկոյեան ժամը 7:00, Նոր Մարաշի Հայ աւետարանական եկեղեցւոյ Ք. Ջ. սրահին մէջ:

Emails and Messages

Dr. Gevork Kherlopian (USA): "Dear Brothers and Sisters in Christ:
I read your publication with great satisfaction. Your work is inspiring. This time I intend to write about the role of my grandparents in shaping my intellectual interests. My grandfather Gevork loshkadjian, who had a four grade education, was my mentor in Mathematics and Algebra. I would read him the problem, with two or three unknowns, and after a few minutes he would give me the answers and in his manner would explain the solution. He also enriched my memory of Armenian folklore. They became a great source of religious and patriotic education. My grandmother, Ferida Kherlopian, could not read and write Armenian. She was the first to speak me about Grigor Narekatzi and demand me to put the book of Narek under mt pillow. In her words and in her understanding she would teach me Narekatzi. My Christian education owes her a lot, In my later academic research I paid special attention to the heritage of the great Armenian poet, theologian and musician. Dr. Gevork Kherlopian"

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Mr. Manuel Asdghig Manoukian (Australia): "DEAR KARJIAN FAMILY,
MRS. REBECCA KARJIAN, POLIN, NAYIRI, SEVAN, REV. BALABANIAN, DATEV.
OUR CONDOLENCES FOR THE PASSING OF REV HOVH. KARJIAN, GODS GRACE AND PEACE TO YOU IN THESE DIFFICULT TIMES.
LOVE
MANUEL ASDGHIG MANOUKIAN
SYDNEY AUSTRALIA"

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menk hayenk yev hay ge mnank.
ays hoskerov pavarare chezi haydnelou hayi aroune vor ge grem.
menk hay indanik 2 aghvhig ounink maria talin. yev mer hay anoune ounenalnous shad hbardenk. tebedk darinerov saudi arabia gabrink .mod 22 dari.tebedk chenk morchach mer haygagan lezoun yv ge korgagenk mer indanikin mech, nayev ge hentrem polorn ayn hayere hbard elan yev mishd hishen irentz haygagan aroune, shad shnorhagalem chezi gouzem cher oushatroutyoune kravel. aghchigs hos fransagan tbrochin mech miag hayner vor arachnoutyou arav polor gulf internation french school. yev megnechav france so ays pavarare eselou vor mer garoughoutyou shad aveli ye kan ge tiden mezi gernank hasnil yev bidi sharounagenk .our voral ellank ourel linenk chenk moranal mer hay lezoun .SILVA GABOUDIGIAN.housam mishd oughargek zis cher noroutyounnere.yev chem garger gernan voyeve meg ouranal mer garoughoutyounnere. thanks khatchikian family."

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WE WISH YOU A VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR, MAY THE NEW YEAR BE FULL OF HAPPYNESS AND JOY.
BEST REGARDS
MANUEL ASDGHIG MANOUKIAN( SYDNEY AUSTRALIA)"

Mr. Avak K. Garabedian: "Thanks to Armenian Evangelical Emmanuel Church for those wonderful
e-mails and i'm happy to receive these e-mails.......... hachokhoutioun "

Mr. Hampartsoum Antounian (Montreal, Canada): "Shad sireli Emmanuel Chanitz parégamnér,
Gouzénk serdakin tsézi maghtél NOR DARI yev SOURP DZENOUNT.
Shad shnorhagal enk vor mezi mishd gue gherguék tser lourére. Mér siréli Verabadveli Hovhannes Svadjian yév mér djandjtsadz badvélinéroun lourérn al garnénk, intchbés nayév tser hokévor yév azkayin kordounéoutiounnére. GUE SHNORHAVORÉNK TSÉZ : sharounagétsék nouyn tapov. DÉRE TSÉZ ORHNÉ OU BAHBANÉ.
Aghotki mioutiamp,
Hampartsoum et Seta Andonian"

Mr. Khoren Pilibossian (Montreal, Canada): "Parev Raffi,
Thank you for the detailed explanation. I like chanitz.org it's more professional and we know .org stands for organization :) (www.Chanitz.org replaces www.Chanitz.com)
Thanks again for your emails.
In Christ,
Khoren"

Mrs. Alidz Sabounjian (Lebanon): "Thank you Raffi for sharing this article with friends. you're doing very good job. I wish all Armenian youth think and work as you do. Wish you success."

Anonymous (Lebanon): "What a shame! The Chanitz team who took second place don't get a mention (General Knowledge Contest Among Chanitz Associations), and instead the false impression is created that another team placed second!"
Chanitz.org responded the following: "Mr./Ms. Anonymous, we appreciate your statement. We also understand keeping of your identity as anonymous, although we would have loved/encouraged the transparency.
For the future, we would benefit more and correct any mistake if the issue is stated clearly (in this case mentioning the intended team).
We would like to confirm that we have no intention of shadowing or misrepresenting any person, team or party.
Sincerely,
Raffi "

Mr. Vartan Cholakian (Aleppo, Syria): "Hello, This YouTube (Armenian Evangelical Church, Syria) Video was created by Mr.Samouel Cholakian, from Aleppo Syria. thank you"

Ms. L. Sekilian on (Պարուհի «Զիզի»ն կը Ճոխացնէ Սբ. Ծնունդի Տօնակատարութիւնը): "I think your question is very relevant.
what we celebrate is the birth of Jesus Christ & we have to make sure that he is present with us when we do celebrate it.
But unfortunately, some people only do parties & dancing & drinking forgetting this important Holy person Jesus Christ"

Rev. Gregory Haroutyounian (Belmont, USA): "I LOVE your blog!!!
Thanks for all your hard work and creativity. This is a great way to keep us all connected; keep up the good work!
One correction (Armenian Evangelical Church, Syria): Rev. Avedis Boynerian is the pastor of our sister church, the Armenian Memorial Church in Watertown, MA.
Thanks again,
Greg Haroutunian
First Armenian Church, Belmont, MA"

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Maral Gojigian Artin "

Mrs. Sevan and Nerses Balabanian (San Francisco, USA): "Congratulations Raffi and Chanitz.org team (Chanitz.org Greatly Appreciated) for all you do for all of us around the world. We are glad that the efforts and commitment you'r putting into the website are bring acknowledged and appreciated by many.
Keep going
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Through Facebook
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յ.գ. կարծեմ աւելի գեղեցիկ «խալֆիէ» մը կրնային դնել ձեր նկարին.հէ հէ հէ"

Overcoming the Dark Side of Leadership: The Narcissistic Leader

Narcissus was a mythical Greek who was so absorbed with himself that when he looked at his reflection in a pool he could not leave.
Solomon was this kind of leader. He accumulated for his own glory and grandeur.

Narcissistic leaders:
• Tend to overestimate their own achievements and abilities while stubbornly refusing to recognize the quality and value of the same in others
• Recognition of someone else’s accomplishments or abilities is a threat to their own self-importance
• They use others to advance themselves so are notorious for being unable to empathize with those they lead
• They are driven to succeed by a need for admiration and acclaim
• They are self-absorbed and have deep feelings of inferiority
• They may not enjoy their success and may be dissatisfied with their lives

Mark the following:
5 = strongly agree
4 = agree
3 = uncertain
2 = disagree
1 = strongly disagree

• Fellow leaders in my church or organization frequently question whether my proposed goals and projects are feasible and realistic.
• I am obsessed with knowing how others feel about my sermons, lessons, and performance.
• I find it difficult to receive criticism of any kind, reacting with anger, anxiety, or even depression when it does come.
• At times I find myself thinking, I’ll show them; they could never make it without me, when I experience conflict situations or opposition to my proposed plans.
• In spite of achieving what others would consider significant success, I still find myself dissatisfied and driven to achieve greater things in an effort to feel good about myself.
• I am willing to bend rules and press the envelope of acceptable behavior to accomplish my goals.
• I find myself feeling jealous of the success and achievements of associates, other churches, or organizations in my area.
• I am often unaware of or unconcerned about the financial pressures my goals and projects place on those I lead or the church or organization I serve.
• Success or failure in a project has a direct bearing on my self-image and sense of worth.
• I am highly conscious of how colleagues and those to whom I am accountable regard my accomplishments.
• I need to be recognized or “on top” when meeting with a group of fellow pastors, denominational officials, or associates.
• I see myself as a nationally known figure at some time in the future or I have plans to attain such a position.

Next Week: The Paranoid Leader

Chanitz.org Greatly Appreciated

Chanitz.org submitted its annual report in front of the Armenian Evangelical Emmanuel Church members and was accepted with applause and appreciation for the great endeavor and success achieved.

During the session, Mr. Raffi Chilingirian, the Editor-in-Chief, surprised the assembly by appreciating the pastor of the church, Rev. Hovanness Svajian, with a gift, as a token of appreciation for his great help and support.

Overcoming the Dark Side of Leadership: Compulsive Leader

Moses was a compulsive leader, his need to control caused his father-in-law to re-arrange his case load. Moses also was prone to occasional outbursts of anger.

A compulsive leader:
• needs to maintain absolute order
• pursues perfection to the extreme
• live rigid, highly systematized daily routines that they must follow meticulously
• are status conscious, as such they seek to impress their superiors with their diligence and efficiency
• they continually look for the reassurance and approval of authority figures
• these pressures cause them to become workaholics
• they see staff as slackers if they don’t keep pace
• there is little room for spontaneity, even recreation and relaxation time is planned well in advance
• on the outside they are pictures of absolute order, on the inside they are an emotional powder keg
• this rigid personality can come from rigid childhood environments where unrealistic expectation were place on
• this repressed anger can suddenly erupt
• attempts to exercise and maintain control of their lives and environments are efforts to keep repressed anger, resentment, and rebellion from surfacing

Mark the following:
5 = strongly agree
4 = agree
3 = uncertain
2 = disagree
1 = strongly disagree

• I often worry that my superiors do not approve of the quality of my work.
• I am highly regimented in my daily personal routines such as exercise schedule or devotions.
• When circumstances dictate that I must interrupt my daily personal routines, I find myself out of sorts and feeling guilty for having “skipped” a day.
• I frequently find myself conscious of my status in relationship to others.
• It is difficult for me to take an unplanned day off from work responsibilities just to goof around or spend time with friends or family.
• While away from work, I still find myself thinking about work-related topics, often sitting down to write out my ideas in length even if it disrupts family activities.
• I like to plan the details of my vacations so that I don’t waste time.
• I often explode in anger after being cut off or irritated while driving or over petty issues.
• I am meticulous with my personal appearance, keeping shoes shined, clothes perfectly pressed, hair carefully cut and groomed, and fingernails always clipped.
• I frequently comment about the long hours I keep and my heavy workload.
• When others make sloppy errors or pay little attention to detail, I become annoyed and judge that person.
• I am obsessive about the smallest errors, worrying that they will reflect poorly on me.

Next week: The Narcissistic Leader